144. Be Interested and Be Interesting |成为一个“感興趣”和 “有趣” 的人
– Musings of Dr. Jamie C. Hsu, 10.14.2022
Are you surrounded by friends who are interested in you and pay attention to your deeds and words? They make you feel important and valued. Interacting with them makes you happy and energized.
Or, do you have friends and colleagues who have many interesting experiences and knowledge to share with you? Spending time with them keeps you entertained and intrigued.
These are the type of friends we all want. They are interested in us and are interesting themselves. But how do we become such friends ourselves? Here are a few suggestions:
Cultivate the habit of listening attentively to others and asking inquisitive questions to show your interest in the speaker and the subject. An affirmative nod and smile will make others feel important and welcome. If you’d like to know more about the person, set up a follow-up meeting or communication. You’ll make a lasting impression and create a friendship when you are the one who pays attention and shows interest.
To become interesting people ourselves, we need to have skills, knowledge, experience, and viewpoints to share with others. In many gatherings or conversations, when people just exchange pleasantries and share news items, it becomes a boring event. We’ll remember if someone shows a special vocal or instrumental musical talent, shares a fascinating travel adventure, or gives an insightful analysis of a current event. We learn something, we are entertained, or we are fascinated by a great story. We want to spend more time with such friends and colleagues.
Are you interested in others? Are you becoming an interesting person yourself? These are two good questions to reflect upon as you go through your career and your life journey. The more you develop these attributes, the more likely you’ll achieve your goals in life.
成为一个“感興趣”和 “有趣” 的人 (2022/10/14)
-作者 許俊宸博士
-中譯 薛乃綺
你身旁有朋友對你關注 並對你的一言一行感到興趣嗎？他們讓你覺得自己很重要而且有價值，跟他們互動，會讓你感到快樂和充滿活力。
或者，你是否有朋友和同事，他們有許多有趣的經驗和知識，可以與你分享？跟他們共度時光，會讓你感到愉悅與驚喜！
這些都是我們想要的朋友類型。他們對我們有興趣、他們自己也是有趣的人。但是我們自己如何成為別人這樣的朋友呢？這裡有一些建議：
培養專心聆聽他人的習慣。並提出好奇的問題，表現你對講得人以及議題有興趣。肯定的點頭和微笑，會讓其他人感到重要和受歡迎。如果你想要了解這個人更多的訊息，可以後續再安排會議或者交流。當你是一個關注並且表現出興趣的人的時候，你會留下深刻印象而且跟對方開始有了交情。
要成為有趣的人，我們需要擁有能與他人分享的技能、知識、經驗和觀點。在許多聚會和談話中，當人們只是互相寒暄、分享新聞時事時，就會變成一件無趣的事情。我們會記得是否有人表現出特殊的歌唱、或樂器天賦；或者有人分享了驚奇的旅行冒險、或者有人對當前情勢進行了深刻的分析。我們學到了一些東西、我們獲得娛樂、或者被一個偉大的故事所吸引。我們会想花更多的時間，跟這樣的朋友或同事相處。
你對別人感興趣嗎？你自己是否變成一個有趣的人了嗎？在你的職涯和人生旅程中，這是兩個很好的問題。你越是培養這樣的特質，你就越有可能實現你的人生目標。
