Are You Stuck? ] 你，卡住了嗎？
– Musings of Dr. Jamie C. Hsu, 6.25.2021
Are you stuck in your career, relationship, physical well-being, or even your overall mentality? How can you get unstuck and move forward?
Maybe we can learn a lesson from a driving experience we have all had: getting stuck in deep snow or mud, and trying to get out. When that happens, we don’t just step on the gas pedal and rev the engine. That will make the situation worse and cause us to get stuck even deeper. Or worse, this brute force power racing might burn the tires and engine and cause permanent damage. Instead, we should gently rock the car back and forth, in forward and reverse gears, to gain momentum to drive out. If that doesn’t work, we can put a wood board or a large rock under the wheel to gain traction. Of course, the best way to get the car out is to seek help from other people or call a tow truck.
We can apply the same approach to unstick ourselves from careers, relationships, and mental attitudes. Instead of just working harder and harder and burning out, we need to assess the situation and apply a combination of push and pull, back and forth rocking, to give us new momentum.
If your career is stalled, try something new: volunteer in a special task force or request a different assignment to gain new insight and demonstrate your capability. Get outside help from colleagues, mentors, and friends, who can provide objective assessments and push you forward. Similar to career advancement, you can also add new dimensions and ingredients into your daily life with family and friends. This will give you a better understanding, stronger relationships, and a deeper appreciation for others.
To improve yourself, you need to acquire new skills and knowledge. You can learn from books, workshops, a personal trainer, or a marriage counselor. The right tools and outside help will increase your chances and enhance your capability to overcome tough situations in life.
In summary, when getting stuck, don’t just apply brute force. Try to assess the situation objectively, apply the right tools, and seek expert help. Most importantly, have a positive mentality, believe in yourself, and persevere for continuous improvement.
I hope you can always unstick yourself and move forward to enjoy a renewed life.
你，卡住了嗎？
-作者 許俊宸博士
-中譯 薛乃綺
你是否感覺到你的事業、人際關係、整體幸福感、甚至是你的心態，有被困住了呢？到底要如何擺脫、繼續往前走呢？
也許我們可以從開車的經驗中汲取教訓：車子陷在雪中或泥濘中，然後試圖脫困。發生這種況狀時，我們通常不能一直踩油門、催引擎；如此一來反而會變得更糟、卡得更深。更嚴重的，這樣的蠻力還可能造成輪胎燒毀或整個引擎報銷。相反的，我們應該試著用前進跟後退檔，輕輕地前後搖動車輛，把車子有動力可以滑出來。如果這樣不管用，我們也可以在車輪下放一塊木板、或者一塊大石頭，來獲得能着力的带动力量。當然，最好的辦法就是有別人或拖車等外援的幫忙，把車子拖出來。
我們可以運用類似的方法，來擺脫目前在事業上、人際關係上、或心理上的束縛。我們需要評估情況，並善用推拉、前後的動作，給我们新的动力；而不是做得更用力更辛苦，把自己搞到精疲力盡。
如果你的職涯停滯不前，請嘗試新的事物；自願去新的工作單位、或是請求執行不同的特別任務，不但可以帶來新的見識，還能展現自己的能量。平时，你也需要獲得來自外部包括同事、導師、以及朋友的協助，給你客觀的評估、讓你有往前的動力。如同職場的發展途徑，我們可以跟家人和朋友，在日常生活中添加一些新的空間和元素；如此能更深入的認識彼此、建立更牢固的關係，並且能夠更好的了解自己与對方。
當然，你需要有渴望的心态，透過新的技能和知識來提升自己的能量。你也可以從書籍、研討會、私人教練或婚姻顧問中去學習到新知識。正確的工具，方法，和外援，將會幫助你克服生活中艱難的困境，增加成功的機會及能力。
總結來說，當你覺得卡住的時候，不要只用蠻力解決，要客觀地評估情況，然後運用正確的工具、並且尋求專家的幫助。最重要的是，我們要有積極的心態、相信自己、並具備持續進步的毅力。
祝福各位勇於擺脫桎梏、努力向前、享受嶄新的人生！
